Flowers? Check. A nice bottle of wine? Check. A whole lot of capital “D” drama? Check!

Though waiters may be equipped with an extremely detailed mental menu of all their restaurant’s specials and an arsenal of tricks and tips for dealing with entitled Karens — while still getting a tip — it seems service workers have something else in tow: A whole lot of tea.

After witnessing countless dates throughout their times as servers, waiters have seen it all when it comes to the good, bad, and ugly of romance. 

From six-week proposals to full-on arson, here are 20 terrible, terrible date night disasters as told by the waitstaff that watched the drama unfold.